“Opportunity looks a lot like hard work.”
That sounds like something he’d say, right? Except that he didn’t, the actor playing him said that.
“Opportunity looks a lot like hard work.”
– Ashton Kutcher
Yes, Ashton Kutcher.
I went to see Jobs the other day (with my amazing wife) and I was a bit leary of Kutcher’s portrayal of one of the greatest thinkers and inventors of our time. When I think of Ashton Kutcher, I think of That 70s Show, Dude Where’s My Car? or Two and a Half Men.
But seriously, he knocked it out of the park and, while the movie was pretty good, I was totally transfixed by his performance. The pursing of his lips, the hunched and flat-footed walk, the distant stare, the speech inflection… everything.
That show taught me two things:
1) Don’t go in with expectations (read as: don’t judge a book by its cover). I think we do this a lot as teachers – we don’t mean to, but we do. Concurrently, the students will also do a second-order judgement on themselves as you’re doing a first order judgement on them. They are assessing themselves based on their judgement of your judgement on them. It becomes a cyclical process of judgement. Both parties need to stop doing this because it doesn’t help anyone.
Go in with a blank slate, both teacher and student. Kids are so perceptive of minute actions that I think we really need to be mindful of what we’re sending out. It might be a small stare, an exhalation of breath, a sinking of the eyes, a slouch, a quick turn away.
A particular former flute player of mine left Band in grade 10 and dove into choir, where she was crazy good. I couldn’t remember her name when she was in my Jr. Symphonic Band in Grade 9. I had completely forgotten about it, but she didn’t. Even on one of the last days of her Grade 10 year, she reminded me that I could never remember her name.
Anyway, Ashton Kutcher was remarkable, even though I didn’t think he’d done anything that really blew me away until then. But, what really got me, was a speech he made just last week at the Teen Choice Awards (yes, I know, but we’re not going in with expectations, remember?).
2) Opportunity looks a lot like hard work. This one ties back to expectation too because there are so many opportunities that we get, but feel like we don’t deserve. The most common one that I see is when students bring back that acceptance letter to Music School and tell me “but I’m not good enough to be there.” Actually, you are, because you wouldn’t have gotten in if you weren’t.
But you wouldn’t have gotten in if you didn’t work the audition piece. Sometimes, I feel like auditions are teaching toward the test. You work a few pieces so hard that you master them, then you can’t get through something new. But the lesson of hard work still applies because it got you in the door to the next opportunity (and you couldn’t have even unlocked the piece if you hadn’t worked your skills for years before you started practicing the audition music).
When I got the DuckTales contract, I immediately felt like I didn’t deserve it and that I wasn’t good enough to do it. I was just punching above my weight class.
(from Urban Dictionary)
Except that I wasn’t – I could do everything that the creative leads, the producers, and the game and the music wanted me to do. That doesn’t mean that I didn’t obsess over it, or go to bed thinking about the viola part in the B section of the airship level, or if there was too much mid in the slap bass during the opening. I even sent three or four entirely different (though incomplete) pieces away for the Cowboy level because it had to be right. There was a healthy balance of “make it great” and “don’t screw it up,” and I suppose that both are important, to some degree. A similar (but less crazy) feeling happened with KRE-O: CityVille Invasion.
But it’s not like these came out of nowhere. The company, Complex Games, and I have been working together on and off for about seven years and I’m sure that they’ve had a similar experience in their growth too. When I first started with them, we were working on a pirate game for Facebook and now we’re doing mobile games for Disney and Zynga. And that’s growth. That’s what growth looks like. (And goodness, they do fabulous work and deserve all of the accolades that come to them).
The growth still comes from hours at a piano or in front of a sketchbook, like an artist in front of a canvas or a horn player in a practice room. I really like that stuff. I like leaning over the piano keys and sketching out ideas, then building that musical house one note at a time.
So, here’s my question: What makes you want to work hard? If you don’t know the answer that, then try this one: What do you love? Why not do more of that 🙂
I think a lot about this, about the nexus of hard work and opportunity. Some people get lucky (and arguably, a degree of luck is still needed, even for the hardest workers) and some people cheat, but I think that’s the exception. Yet, so many will pick that one time and try to emulate that… and fail.
“But so-and-so sightread the audition and got into honour band.”
“My friend so-and-so didn’t study for the History final and still got an 80.”
Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Tiny Fey explains it best in Bossypants, describing her show would succeed where all other shows about awesome 20-somethings would fail:
For years the networks have tried to re-create the success of Friends by making pilot after pilot about beautiful twenty-somethings living together in New York. Beautiful twenty-somethings living in Los Angeles. Beautiful twenty-somethings investigating sexy child murders in Miami. This template never works, because executives refuse to realize that Friends was the exception, not the rule. The stars of beloved shows like Cheers, Frasier, Seinfeld, Newhart, and The Dick Van Dyke Show had normal human faces.
The best don’t start as the best, but they got better with hard work and time. Put in the time, put in the work, and it works a lot better if it’s something you love. If it’s something you don’t love (i.e. geometry), you’ll probably still be better off if you give it your best shot. I hated learning ratios in math, but I use them everyday. Seriously, every day.
Find something you love and work it. If you do so honestly, you will deserve whatever comes your way.